Miller,
Geidel and Associates 
Non-Profit Family Counseling Center
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Non-Profit Family Counseling Center
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MARRIAGE
COUNSELING
Do
you remember when you decided to marry? Do
you remember thinking or believing that the love you felt for each other was all
you needed to live happily-ever-after?
Have
you experienced those feelings of love beginning to fluctuate and change?
Do you know why this is happening? Are
you still committed to making your marriage work? Do
you understand the dynamics and factors that make a relationship work and those
that don't? What
key factors have begun to influence the dynamic of your relationship with your
spouse? You may want to
reflect more closely on a few challenging questions that might help you pinpoint
the trouble spots in your marriage: ·
How well do I communicate
what I'm
feeling? ·
What
behaviors consistently re-enforce and nurture
my love for my wife/husband? Which
ones might not? ·
Do
I allow my spouse to love me
fully and completely? ·
How
confident am I in my ability to resolve
conflict? ·
Are
differences in attitudes,
expectations, or future goals preventing us from being happy together?
If so, what are they? Is
there any room for compromise for the sake of the relationship? ·
Are
we in agreement about what's best in raising
our children and handling any problems that exist in the parent-child
relationships? What are our
differences? Am I willing to work
on them? ·
Are
we living in a blended family
unit in which former spouses, step-children, and additional emotional, physical
and financial responsibilities demand more of our time and energy and resources
than we seem to have available? ·
Is
the quality and frequency of sexual intimacy
with each other all that we desire it to be?
What happened? When and why
did each of us stop receiving? When
and why did we stop giving? When
was the last time lovingly, openly, and honestly shared our feelings about the
quality of our sexual relationship? Any
or all of these questions become significant in assessing the heartbeat of your
marriage. One
of the first steps to keeping love and devotion living and powerful in your
marriage is taking time to reflect and evaluate what you are bringing into or
withholding in your relationship. Whether
you stay together for the "long haul" or not, depends on how faithful
and permanent your commitment really is to each other, the depth and quality of
your friendship, and a mutual willingness to share your affection, emotions,
passion and time.
These are the elements of relationship that fan the flame of your
feelings for each other and nourish your marriage. The
counseling process does not need to take a lifetime, however, doing the work
that is essential in keeping your marriage thriving does! The
marriage and family therapists affiliated with Miller, Geidel and Associates are
committed to working with you toward restoring, renewing and re-building the
quality and functioning of your marriage.
If
feelings of inadequacy, guilt, or embarrassment surface about needing to ask a
therapist for help in restoring perhaps the most significant relationship in
your life, ponder the following statement for a minute:
"It sometimes
takes more wisdom, more courage, and more strength to walk through the front
door of a counseling office and ask for help, than it does to walk out the front
door of your home emotionally broken and discouraged."
Regardless
of your choice to separate or to stay and make it work don't try to go it alone.
There are many qualified, experienced, and licensed therapists out there
who can help you.
Those
of us with Miller, Geidel and Associates will be available if and when you need
us. Just
pick up the phone and give us a call: (661)
253-4133 |
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